老公接了兒子們回來了。大兒子沮喪地對我說,"我的英文作業只拿了C+。"說著眼淚也下來了~
原來是那個兒子比較得意的圖文並茂之作。他在期待一個A。兒子接著說:"我認為這個分數不公平。"老公在一邊開玩笑說,"我們馬上去學校找老師說清楚~"
兒子的作業共三頁a4紙。老師的評語有三點,我大致看了一下,未得要領。於是告訴安慰他,媽媽晚飯後會讀一遍他的"傑作",並給他一個second opinion。而後再商量一下如何同老師溝通一下。這時,烤箱裡的披薩好了,及時撫平了兒子受傷的心。
我想,這也許是一個教兒子處理misunderstanding的好機會呢~
稍後待續~
不在其位不謀其政。。。哪怕是孩子的心。。。
被misunderstanding是會受傷的; 聽聽他對C+的看法,及為啥要A,就容易理解與溝通。
Finished reading his assignment just now~
Unfortunately, C+ is a fair mark in my opinion. Now it's a bit challenging for me to help him accept the result and make corrections/improvements~
Will talk to him once he has supper done~
Everything is going well~
I told him," unfortunately, to be honest, I agree with your teacher."
Then, I stopped and waited to see his reaction.
He appeared calm, so I continued~
We went through teacher's comments together to make sure he understood it. I also encouraged him making all the corrections. The recommendation I gave to him is to proofread at least once before handing in any project.
Finally, the correction has been made and I've signed the paper.
The end~