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樓主 / 特別白
- 時間: 2012-2-16 17:04Surviving the Terrible Two's...Help!
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I hope I'm not alone on this but do your kids, especially toddlers, drive you crazy? My son sure does, lol.
I have a boy who is almost 2 1/2 years old. He's is so sweet, cute, funny and smart. But my goodness he can be such a little pain in the booty sometimes. It seems like everything is such a struggle with him. He's constantly whiny and won't listen to me. If I'm getting him dressed he puts up a fight or starts kicking me. It can take 15 minutes just to get him in some clothes. If I'm making dinner he comes in the kitchen and starts pressing the buttons on the dishwasher or opening drawers and taking things out. He does this stuff even when I'm not in the kitchen. I can't put childproof locks on the cabinets because we rent. We do keep the dangerous stuff out of reach. He screams alot if he wants something and when he is frustrated or angry he'll come over and smack me or my husband or baby. I get down on his level and use a firm voice and tell him not to hit but it seems like nothing works. I know at this age they are still learning to communicate but he hits alot.
I think he is just hyper but my husband says its just normal two year old behavior. I swear he has ADD but I'm no doctor and I know he is too young to diagnose. I am a stay at home mom and lately there are some days I can't wait for him to be in school already.
Moms and Dads, what do I do? What are some good and effective techniques to disipline my son. How did you survive the terrible twos? Will it get better (please tell me it does!) or is this just a boy thing.
I love my little boy dearly but I need some advice. I feel like a bad parent sometimes, that I'm doing something wrong.
Thanks!
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We didn't have it bad at two, but three, UGHHHHH!!!! It doesn't get much better, until they move out of the house! Sorry My son is 5 and we fight all the time. He is fresh all the time to me and husband. He spends alot of time in the corner for his fresh mouth! When he was little and did the hitting thing, we would put him in our laps, cross his arms and make him sit there until he calmed down. Then once he was calm enough, we would talk to him and explain that the behavior was not tolerated. Then we would make him apologize for his actions. We would always hug and kiss him and tell him thankyou for apologizing but we never said " Oh honey, that's okay". That's telling him the behavior is okay, and all he's going to get is a time out. We tell him that we don't like the way he behaved. He's learned, but since he talks more now, we're looking for some duct tape that won't hurt and we can still feed him....any ideas???? Just kidding!!!!!
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We've had luck with this with our 2 1/2 year old. (It may not work for everyone.) The basic idea is to count them for unacceptable or obnoxious behavior. When you get to three, they get a time out. After the time out is over, just put the incident behind you and move on. Don't force them to apologize. (The time out isn't a punishment. It's a way to try to "reboot" them, more or less.)
Hitting in our house is an immediate, no-counting time out.
It took a week or two for our daughter to get it, but now we rarely get past 2 before she decides that she doesn't want a time out.
You have to be willing to do the time out everywhere and anywhere. I've taken her kicking and screaming out of the grocery store to sit in the car for a couple of minutes - but that was a few months ago and she doesn't test us in the store any more.
It also helps to give them something else to do. They are getting attention and a reaction from you when they are pushing your buttons. Instead of yelling, "No!", you can divert their attention. We keep some favorite toys out of their reach that we pull out for these circumstances. So when she's underfoot in the kitchen and driving us crazy, we don't have to get mad at her. We just say, "Hey, do you want to play with play-do?" or something like that. And she loves to be given little tasks while we're cooking, even if it is just a "busy" task. Some of the things that I have her do to "help" are to divide some sliced vegetables into to piles, or to sit at the table and make a menu for dinner or placemats with her crayons, or to put the silverware from the dishwasher away.
We also use a timer to limit activities. There's something about the timer that takes the decision out of mom and dad's hands for them. "Sorry, sweetie, but the timer went off. We're done reading and it's time to go to bed".
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My 2.5 son is an absolute terror. He has learned to climb onto the kitchen counters, entertainment center. He climbs into the sink to "wash" his feet or fill his cup. He turns on the diswasher, opens the stove to use the door for a ladder, you name it he does it. He has also lovingly learned how to work the vcr, dvd player and radios. So forget watching anything remotely grown up during the day. He can pry the childproof locks off the video tape and book cabinet. Can carry chairs to wherever it is he can't reach. He has also learned how to talk back and say no and generally give his opinion on all matters which is the exact opposite of what you want him to do.
Oh and here is the biggie he can open the front door and let himself out of the house. We are buying a chain for the front door this weekend.
Needless to say I am ready for him to turn 3 or 4 because I am totally exhausted at the end of the day.
Now that I have totally scared you it does get better. My 10 and 11 yr old were this way and it wears off pretty quick. I have found that if you take them outside as much as you can it will wear them out and they can't be quite the terror they normally are. It is a stage and they do outgrow it. Good luck. It does get better I promise. -
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